Tolerance is all well and good, but I think we’ve taken it too far in the kink community. For the most part, YKINMKBYKIOK (your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok) is a good and useful idea. If you’re an adult baby/diaper lover or furry, more power to you. If you like water sports, roman showers, scat, incest role play, rape play, or god forbid mime play, that’s all fine. Everybody has a right to think whatever they want, to jerk off to whatever they want, and to look for other people to act out their fantasies with. As long as you don’t harm anyone and leave me out of it, go nuts!
Just don’t expect me not to make fun of you if you go around spouting total bullshit. Your freedom to do what you like doesn’t magically negate my freedom to point out that you’re being a complete fucking moron. If your ideas are stupid, I’m going to mock them. If you don’t like your ideas being made fun of, maybe you should try not to say stupid shit where I can see it.
For fuck’s sake, it’s possible for ideas to be wrong. All submissive people are somehow less than all dominant-identified people? WRONG. There’s one right way to be submissive/dominant/a slave/a master and I know what it is? WRONG. A real submissive/dominant/slave/master does X and never Y? WRONG. The closer you get to 24/7 total power exchange, the better a kinky person you are? WRONG WRONG WRONG with a side of kill it with fire.
If your ideas can’t stand up to criticism, they aren’t good ideas. If you can’t explain them to other people, they aren’t good ideas. If no one else comes to the same conclusion, then I hate to break it to you, but your idea is probably not a winner. An idea that turns you on is not magically exempt from being completely ridiculous. If the scientific method is good enough to bring us the computer you’re reading this on, it’s good enough to use to evaluate kink related ideas.
Either we as a community care whether ideas are reasonable or not, or we’re just a bunch of assclowns having a sad little circle jerk.
I declare open season on stupidity. We as a community have a responsibility to at least try to spread accurate, useful information and stand up and say something when people put out ideas that are just wrong.