The Art of Rope Bottoming: Delano

This link is awesome because it points out the fact that bottoming actually does take skill. The vast majority of classes offered address only topping skills, which makes it look like bottoming is just a matter of lying there and taking it. Bottoms are *not* objects! It’s not easy to point out that your top is wrapping during a scene. It’s not easy to speak up when a scene just isn’t working for you. It’s not easy to make sure you give yourself the necessary care to make sure you don’t throw up/faint/get a terrible headache. All of those things really are skills and they matter.

BDSM’s Dirty Secret – The Real Risk of Kinky Sex

This is a subject near and dear to my heart. My favourite thing about kink is the intimacy of revealing the least socially acceptable parts of myself to another person and having them like it. I’ve said over and over that hitting someone and having them thank me for it never gets old. No fancy toy or technically flawless suspension can match that.