The end of spite week

For those who haven’t been reading my blog every day (which is totally cool! I know you all have other stuff to do), for the last week I scheduled a (usually short) post every day about something completely unrelated to kink.

Here’s a quick set of links if you want to catch up:

Cis is not a slur
Space!
Bel Dame Apocrypha
Removing vegetable oil stains (yes, some of these posts got pretty random)
The “friend-zone” doesn’t exist
Sunless Sea!

The reason I did that was because I’m incredibly pissed off by the idea that I am nothing more than my kink. It shouldn’t be any sort of surprise to hear that I’m a human fucking being with more than one interest, but apparently there are a lot of idiots in the world. One of my goals when I first started this blog was to help humanize female doms, and honestly I don’t think I’ve done a great job of that one. Saying that I’m more than my kink is all well and good, but I think it’s much more meaningful to show people I’m more than my kink by talking about non-kinky things I’m interested in. And it seems like people responded to spite week, so I’m thinking I’ll add the occasional extra post about something unrelated to kink.

Speaking of which, is there anything in particular you’d like to hear about? No promises any given question will make it into a post, but I’m open to suggestions.

10 thoughts on “The end of spite week

  1. I understand why you feel this is necessary–it just saddens me that most men are idiots. For me I want/need to submit to a real woman, not a cartoon character. Anyway, I would be interested in vanilla-only topics about you…things like what you enjoy reading; favorite TV/movies (and why); music; how you spend your day.

  2. More book and media recommendations! I just finished “God’s War” last night and really liked it. Between that, Massive Attack (I prefer 100th Window) and the fact that you’re playing Sunless Sea, I have a feeling there’s a good bit of overlap in our tastes.

  3. One of my goals when I first started this blog was to help humanize female doms, and honestly I don’t think I’ve done a great job of that one. Saying that I’m more than my kink is all well and good, but I think it’s much more meaningful to show people I’m more than my kink by talking about non-kinky things I’m interested in.

    No worries. Humanising us is a worthy goal. But it isn’t anybody’s ‘job’ or responsibility. That we are human beings ought to be self-evident. There’s a culture at work against this that deliberately dehumanises us. The project has to work against opposing odds, therefore it is understandably difficult. You can definitely congratulate yourself for what you do and have done.

    The responsibility is with those who dehumanise us, because they find it conveniently serving a sexist ideology, financially profitable, or otherwise preferable to the shocking reality of ordinary women being dominant.

    More book and media recommendations!
    Yes please, I concur.

    I also enjoy your opinion pieces on aspects of social interaction in general. Write whatever you like, and chances are it will be enjoyable to read.

  4. Thanks everyone 🙂 It’s just really nice to hear that you’re interested in me as a person. I can totally do more recommendations – speaking of which, I saw Jupiter Ascending the other night and it was amazing! I seriously spent half the movie with a grin on my face. It was so much fun to watch and had a completely adorable little hint of femdom in the relationship between the two leads.

    • I’m aware that this is a ham-fisted attempt at a compliment, but in practice calling me an item on a wishlist is about as complimentary as hollering “nice tits” from a car as you drive by. Fuck off.

      • I have followed your blog for quite some time and have enjoyed it immensely. As a single submissive struggling to find his way in this world, I have often thought how nice it would be to find someone like you. My greatest wish is to find peace and contentment in this lifestyle. It was my wish to find someone like you. Sometimes people use words without any intent to harm. My use of the word “item” was not meant as a slur. It did offend you and for that, I offer you my sincerest apology.

        • Protip: “Fuck off” is not code for “dig yourself deeper.”

          If you’ve been reading my blog for “quite some time” you certainly haven’t been paying much attention. What on earth makes you think the woman who wrote You say I’m mean??!!?11? would give a shit about your intentions or your sob story?

          Sometimes people use words without any intent to harm.

          This is shocking news to me, as I am a complete fucking moron who has never left my house or interacted with another human being.

          I don’t fucking care what you intended, I care what you did. What you did was treat me like an object on the last post of a week long howl of rage about people dehumanizing me. I enjoy irony and all, but damn, how fucking stupid can you be?

          To be clear, is precisely NEVER appropriate to assume that the only reason you can’t have a woman is because another man already called dibs. Noah, you can be absolutely certain that my husband is not the reason you will never have me. You are. Your assumption that it would ever be okay to call me an item on a wishlist is no one’s fault but your own, your assumption that you could have me if only another man hadn’t already claimed me is no one’s fault but your own, your assumption that I would give a shit about your sob story is no one’s fault but your own, and your unbelievably insulting “revelation” that sometimes people don’t mean to behave like complete assclowns is no one’s fault but your own.

          You are done with this thread. I might tolerate you commenting on another post if you can skip the whining, but if you comment on this post again I’ll block you at the router level.

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