I’m going to be talking about violent misogyny in this post, if you’re having a bad day you probably want to skip this one.
For those lucky enough not to have heard about it yet, an especially misogynistic shitstain decided he wanted revenge on the women who wouldn’t have sex with him (and the men he assumed were getting the sex he ‘deserved’) by murdering as many people as he could before (most likely) shooting himself. Google UC Santa Barbara shooting for more details.
One of the things that creeps me out the most is that the murdering asshole left a 137-141 page manifesto (different news stories reported different page counts), and a number of YouTube videos explaining what he was going to do and why he was so angry.
“I’m 22 years old and still a virgin, never even kissed a girl. And through college, 2½ years, more than that actually, I’m still a virgin. It has been very torturous,” he said. “The popular kids, you never accepted me and now you will all pay for it. Girls, all I ever wanted was to love you, be loved by you. I wanted a girlfriend. I wanted sex, love, affection, adoration.”
“You forced me to suffer all my life, now I will make you all suffer,” he said. “All you girls who rejected me, looked down upon me, you know, treated me like scum while you gave yourselves to other men. And all of you men for living a better life than me, all of you sexually active men. I hate you. I hate all of you. I can’t wait to give you exactly what you deserve, annihilation.”
If you’ve ever seen a men’s rights activist page or a particularly angry pick up artist, that’s going to look terrifyingly familiar. I’ve seen that exact kind of misogyny online over and over and over. This may be the first mass murder definitively linked to anti-woman hate speech, but it’s certainly not the first murder caused by that kind of contempt for and perceived entitlement to women, and it won’t be the last.
The media is already reporting that Santa Barbara County Sheriff Bill Brown described [the killer] as “very mentally disturbed.” as if his beliefs were any different from a thousand other misogynists’. I would love to be able to write that pathetic manchild off as just some crazy person, but I can’t. His behaviour is just too neatly explained by hatred of women and the belief that he was entitled to their bodies. If that murdering piece of shit hadn’t believed that sex was something those heartless bitches were denying him for no good reason, maybe he would’ve just been sad and lonely, not murderously angry.
No, not all men are murderous wastes of space, but #yesallwomen live in fear that we will be next. All women know what it’s like to live in a culture that hates and fears us, and all women know what it’s like to be treated like we’re less than human.
Dr Nerdlove has written an amazing post on the subject, and the hashtag #yesallwomen was created in response to the mass murder. Read the post, read the hashtag, and for fuck’s sake call out misogyny when you see it. Do that, and maybe the six victim’s deaths can mean something.